Actress vents about beauty standards after stranger asks her to ‘rethink on wearing’ denim shorts
USA, June 29: Brynne Huffman, from Texas, recently put on a pair of mid-thigh denim shorts, a white blouse and flip-flops to run some errands.
But while she was waiting in the queue at a UPS store, a young woman behind her complimented her hair… before suggesting Ms Huffman ‘rethinks’ wearing the shorts.
Ms Huffman decided to write about her infuriating experience and share it on Facebook in a post that has since been liked close to 10,000 times.
‘Ok here goes. Read this. It’s long. I don’t care. I don’t want sympathy. I don’t want compliments. I want action. Read it,’ she wrote.
‘Women. Please, I beg of you please do not tear each other down. There is so much hate in the world right now. Rape culture. Hating Islam. Hating LGBTQ. No more hate.’
Ms Huffman said it took some courage to purchase her shorts because her legs are ‘not where I would like them to be’ or ‘up to traditional beauty standards’ despite being ‘tan from swimming and muscular from dancing.’
‘My second errand of the morning was a drop off at the UPS store. I stood in line between two women. Woman #1 in front of me was about sixty. As I took my place in line behind her, she smiled and complimented me on my tan and my hair,’ she wrote.
‘We chitchatted about the weather and children until it was her turn at the counter. In the spirit of paying it forward, I turned to Woman #2 behind me and smiled. Woman #2 was probably about 30-35, very attractive, about a size 8, wearing a shirt that says “COEXIST”.
‘She says: “Your hair really is amazing. ::cocks head to side:: “You should probably rethink the shorts though”. Yeah. Read that again [sic].’
Ms Huffman said her face flushed instantly ‘not out of embarrassment but anger.’
‘This as my head slowly tilts to the side. If you’ve seen me really angry you know what I mean. My fists clenched up. I know this because I felt my nails digging into my palms,’ Ms Huffman continued.
‘So many things ran through my head. Because I don’t have time to get arrested today, what came out was this: “You should probably rethink your shirt.”
Ms Huffman said she ignored the woman until she left the store as she was afraid she would start crying if she said anything more.
‘All I wanted to do was go home and change my clothes. And THAT made me angry. Gender doesn’t matter. Race doesn’t matter. Religion doesn’t matter. Sexual orientation doesn’t matter,’ she said.
‘But fat? Apparently fat matters. And I’ll go a step further and say it especially seems to matter as an actress. Matter more than talent. Than attitude. Than pretty much anything else. Because fat girls are not believable heroines, ingenues, or objects of sexual desire…but that’s a whole other post.’
Addressing women particularly, Ms Huffman said plus sized doesn’t necessarily mean ‘unhealthy or lazy.’
‘Plus sized doesn’t mean ugly or undesirable or untalented or uncoordinated or LESS. THAN. HUMAN,’ she wrote.
‘You might have an issue with my body. I don’t. And I’ve worked very hard past judgmental family and friends, past divorce, past depression to NOT have an issue with my body.’
‘Women. Do not tear each other down. Celebrate each other. Every day.’
Thousands have commented on Ms Huffman’s post, thanking her for sharing the story and praising her on her words, confidence and attitude.
‘Be true to yourself because you’re the only one that matters.. Your story happens each and every day let’s stop it now,’ one woman wrote.
‘You look fantastic and it’s about time people see people for who they are not their body type.’